Ten Tips for Better Restaurant Experiences with Children

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Ten Tips for Better Restaurant Experiences with Children:

  1. Make sure no one is “starving” by the time you arrive at the restaurant. That makes for cranky people of all sizes.
  2. Bring a baggie of low sugar snacks. Sometimes the wait is much longer than anticipated.
  3. If a child is screaming at the table, take them outside to have a talk. Trying to calm a child within the restaurant only prolongs the agony of everyone, parent included.
  4. Bring paper or small coloring book and crayons. Not all restaurants have them available.
  5. Do not bring markers, especially the smelly ones, or any toys on wheels. Markers end up on everything. Smelly markers tend to end up in children’s mouths. Toys on wheels are easy to lose and are a tripping hazard after they fall on the floor.
  6. Expect children to need to get up and walk around. Small children are physically unable to stay in one place for an extended time. It is uncomfortable for them. If you see that your child is wiggling around, ask them to stand up and walk over to you even if it just to put an arm around him to say how patient he is being to wait for his food.
  7. Show your child how to treat the restaurant staff. Children notice everything parents do and say. If you smile and use polite language, so will the kids.
  8. Converse with everyone at the table. Conversation held during mealtime is becoming a lost art. Too many adults and children lavish time on their electronics instead of giving quality time to the people they love.
  9. If you are lost and have no idea what to talk about, ask your child, “Who got in trouble in school this week (or today).” You will be amazed at what you’ll learn.
  10. Listen to your children when they are speaking. If you listen to them, they will listen to you—an important point for when they become teenagers.

When children misbehave in restaurants, other patrons may give the “hairy eyeball” to the children’s parents. Much of the time, parents are aware of their children’s behavior and feel badly enough as it is. A great strategy to encourage good behavior in restaurants can come from these same patrons. Complement those parents whose children are behaving well. Parents and children need to know when they are being awesome.

Most people enjoy going out to eat. Someone else makes the food, pours the coffee, and asks if there is anything they can bring to the table. If adult time is needed, have a date night without the kids. Don’t feel guilty. Parents should remember that they need a break. Parenting is a difficult job.

When going out as a family, do just that. One of the reasons children get up and run around in a public place is for attention. It’s better to give positive attention, letting your children know how proud you are of them when they’re behaving well, than to use negative attention by yelling at them for running around. Catch them being good and reward them with praise.

A child wants what a child wants. A two-year-old will not understand about lack of funds, but will learn what his or her parents expect through the seemingly endless testing of parental limits.

Consistency is important. Children need to know their parents’ rules. Parents should decide what kind of  behavior they want from their kids and let them know the rules before arriving at the restaurant or any other public places.

Children will rise to their parents’ expectations.

Sock Puppet Tim Speaks About Potty Training

Tim sings –Potty Time (Ellen Buikema.)

It’s potty time, yes it’s potty time.

Oh, it’s potty, potty, potty time, very good time of day.

It’s potty time, yes it’s potty time and when potty time comes can poopy be far away?

Bring on the potty chair. Turn on the lights.

Bring out the potty book. Bring on the wipes.

‘Cause it’s potty, potty, potty time.

Tim, why are you singing about Potty Time?

  • Tim thinking about something waitress at Village Inn said.
  • Her child is getting ready to use the potty and she asked for Tim’s thoughts.

Do you have some suggestions about potty training?

  • Yes, first parents should know if their kids are ready to use the potty.

How would they know that, Tim?

  • If kids like potty chair, want to wear “big boy or big girl” underwear and can follow directions, they might be ready.

What else, Tim?

  • If kids don’t like messy diapers, let parents know when they are ready to go potty and can stay dry for two hours during the day they might be ready.

Tim, is there anything parents should not do?

  • Oh! Yes. Do not pressure kids when they are learning to use the potty. That will make them say NO to potty. Kid’s clothes must be easy to take off, too. Belts are cute, but hard for kids to get off.
  • You know what?

What, Tim?

  • Not all kids are ready at the same age. Some are ready at two, some not ready until time for preschool.

Can you think of anything else, Tim?

  • Any change in family can cause stress to everyone, parents and kids. If big changes are coming, start potty training later. If parents are relaxed, kids will be relaxed, too.
  • You know what?

No, what, Tim.

  • When kids use the potty, parents can give them treats, like extra reading at bedtime or maybe choice of new “big kid” underwear. Sometimes bribe with little cookie or candy treats is okay.

Tim, what about when the family is out driving in the car?

  • It’s a good idea to keep extra clothes is a plastic bag in the car. You never know when extra clothes are needed.

Wow, Tim, you know your stuff. How did you get so smart?

  • Well, I may just be a sock puppet, but I pay attention. More about potty training is in Ellen’s book. See, this one here. Good stuff in here. Gotta go.
  • If anyone has questions for Tim, go to ellenbuikema.com Ask Ellen, she answers. Tim just spokes puppet. HA HA HA .
  • Bye Bye.
  • I love YouTube!

Preview of Snippet—Cookies on a Snowy Day

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As Sock Puppet Tim is still recuperating from his trip to New Mexico, I have decided to include some information about the children’s chapter books that I’ve been working on. Tim will be back in two weeks.

The characters in the stories are all animals. Each story, geared for second grade students but fun for all, covers situations children typically encounter like getting lost, moving, starting a new school, making friends, family vacations, working together, and dealing with bullies. The end of each chapter has an activity for the children to do; some require adult supervision. Many of the chapters are written, but the artwork is in its infancy.

To those of you who have been after me to “get them finished already,” I thank you for your patience. The first of three chapter books should be completed this year.

Here is an excerpt from the chapter, Cookies on a Snowy Day, to be included in the second chapter book.

 

Charlie looked out the front window, watching snowflakes stick to the glass. He thought about cookies. “Mom, can Gary Gecko and Boris Bunny come over?”

“Sure, if their parents say they can,” said Mama Chameleon from her comfy living room chair.

Charlie ran down the hallway towards his bedroom. CRASH! He bumped into the hallway table. Mama yelled, “CHARLIE! Use walking feet in the house.”

“Sorry Mom!” Charlie called. He was excited to have Gary and Boris over.

In the bedroom, Frankie swam fast circles in his fishbowl. “Charlie, are you sure you want Boris Bunny to come over? He always causes trouble.” Frankie remembered Boris reaching into his fishbowl to squish him.

Charlie sent a text to Gary and Boris asking them to come over.

“Frankie, don’t worry about Boris. I’ll keep him busy.”

“Maybe you can lock me in your room. Then he can’t come in and try to squash me again! Fish don’t like hugs,” said Frankie.

“We’re only gonna be in the kitchen. No one is going upstairs. You don’t have to worry about Boris or Gary.”

Frankie poked his head out of the fishbowl and squirted water at Charlie.

“Hey, cut that out. Be a good fish.”

“Carry my bowl to the hallway table. I wanna hear what’s going on.”

“Say please, Frankie. Your manners are bad.”

“Oh, fine. Please,” said Frankie crossing his fins.

“Better. Was that so hard?” Charlie smiled at his cranky pet fish.

“Yes.”

“Okay Frankie,” said Charlie. “I’ll bring you a cookie after Boris and Gary go home.”

“Yummy! No onions in the cookies this time, okay?” said Frankie. He remembered the time Charlie put onion flakes in the cookie dough when he should have used dried coconut.

Behavior in Public: Stores

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Children need guidance to know how to behave. They learn what to do where, and with whom while observing the people around them and by direct instruction. Children learn that grandma expects better manners than cousin does. They adjust behavior accordingly.

Stores

Children learn at an early age what they can get away with in public.

A father walked through a Toys R Us® store with his three-year-old daughter. He planned to purchase diapers for his newborn son. He brought his daughter shopping to give Mom a much needed break. The daughter sat in the cart and looked at all the colorful toys. She wanted a My Little Pony® in the worst way.

The daughter reached her hands toward the ponies on a shelf. Her father told her “no” and pushed the cart farther down the aisle, still looking for diapers.

She screamed at her father, “I want pony. I want pony.” His face reddened while other shoppers stared at him and his daughter. She continued screaming.

Dad, embarrassed and unable to deal with screaming, turned the cart around, grabbed a My Little Pony®, and gave it to his daughter. “Here, is that better? Now be quiet.”

Daughter, happy with the pony, was quiet for the rest of the trip.

I had a similar experience with one of my children in a Sears® store.

With a limited budget I could afford only what I needed. My two-year-old daughter sat in the shopping cart and looked at the toys as we passed them.

“Winnie Poo, Winnie Poo,” she yelled as we passed the bright yellow bear.

“Sorry, we can’t buy Winnie the Pooh. Mommy doesn’t have enough money.”

“Winnie Poo, Winnie Poo,” she screamed, arms reaching toward the bear.

People all over the store stared at us. I chose to ignore them, but it was not easy. Seeing that she was not going to stop yelling for Pooh bear I had to decide whether to let her have the bear or pick her up and leave the store. I opted to leave without purchasing anything.

My daughter cried while I lifted her out of the cart. She flailed her arms and legs. It became necessary to hold her at my side encircled by my arm, the football hold. Her arms and legs hit the air instead of me or anyone that may have come near. No one came close.

“We’re going home,” I told her.

Shoppers stared after us. It didn’t matter.

I worried that, if I’d given in and bought the bear, it would be the beginning of a bad trend. If I gave in, anytime she wanted something and didn’t get it, she’d scream knowing from experience screaming gets what you want.

It was her only tantrum out in public.

Before my children were old enough to enjoy shopping I devised a method to ensure good shopping behavior. If they were patient while shopping, we might go to the Cinnabon ® in the mall. I didn’t want them to think they would always get a treat, which is why I used the word “might.” Around every third shopping trip we stopped at Cinnabon® and get a small treat. To make sure it worked, the first time they were good at the mall we went for a treat to reinforce good behavior.

Some children are easily sensory overloaded, making long shopping trips seem perilous to them and a tantrum risk. Too many people. Too much emotion. They feel stuck in a whirlwind of sights and sounds, yelling to get out.

Consider the following:

  1. Make the trips short.
  2. Give a 5 or 10 minute warning before leaving home.
  3. Inform the child in advance of the plan for the outing.
  4. Have the child use the bathroom before leaving the house.
  5. Bring a snack.

These suggestions are helpful for all children, but are particularly important for children who are learning social skills or have sensory issues.

Next week there will be a performance by Sock Puppet Tim. Here’s the link https://www.youtube.com/c/EllenLBuikema. Come and cheer him on! Let Tim know how he’s doing in the comment section of YouTube.

 

Join me the following week for Behavior in Public: Restaurants. Learn how to have happier family outings.

Sock Puppet Tim Speaks About Fun With Boxes

http://youtu.be/nmZ-S4hDslQ

Tim sings –Little Boxes (Malvina Reynolds.)

Tim, why are you singing about boxes?

  • Tim thinking about boxes left over from moving.
  • Is fun to play with boxes.

How do you play with a box?

  • Well, sometimes Tim likes to crawl into boxes like kitty. They like boxes too.
  • You know what?

What Tim?

  • I’m gonna tell you my favorite box games.

What box games do you like best, Tim?

  • Tim likes to open up two big boxes and tape them together. I ask Ellen to cut holes in them for window so Tim can have play house. Tim decorate inside house-box with markers.

That sounds like fun, Tim. What else do you like to do with boxes?

  • Oh, Tim love science, so Tim does experiments with boxes.

What kind of science can you do with a box, Tim?

  • Ooh! Tim takes two boxes, one tall and one short. Then Ellen tapes a flat bridge between them so Tim has a ramp.

Why do you need a ramp, Tim?

  • So Tim can roll different things down. See how fast or slow things go.
  • You know what?

No, what, Tim.

  • Once Tim put apple and banana on ramp. Apple rolled but banana stayed. Made Tim sad.

What did you do, Tim?

  • Tim put the banana on a toy truck. HA Ha Ha. Then it rolled.

Wow, Tim, you know your stuff. How did you get so smart?

  • Well, I may just be a sock puppet, but I pay attention. More about play is in Ellen’s book. See, this one here. Good stuff in here. Gotta go.
  • If anyone has questions for Tim, go to ellenbuikema.com Ask Ellen, she answers. Tim just spokes puppet. HA HA HA .
  • Bye Bye.
  • I love YouTube!

Naturalistic Intelligence “Nature Smart”

 

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Naturalistic Intelligence is associated with sensing patterns in and making connections to elements in nature.

People talented in this area have highly-developed levels of sensory perception, and may be very interested in human behaviors, or the behaviors, habits, or habitats of other species.

Parents can influence their children’s “Nature smarts” by using the following eleven home activities (not in order of importance).

  1. While cooking and baking, ask the child to set out the ingredients in the order of the recipe.
  2. When cleaning a room, ask the child to organize his room by area—all books in the same place, all toys together in a box.
  3. Read stories with the child. Ask her to retell the story in order. Read her stories about her favorite animals or places. Talk about where the animals in the story live.
  4. At bedtime have the child talk about what he saw on the way home from school, or what he observed while playing outside.
  5. When grocery shopping, have the child make up the grocery list, organized by food types. Ask her about the color, shape, texture, and smell of different foods.
  6. During family game time, play animal charades.
  7. While traveling, encourage the child to help organize items to bring. Have him look at a map of the route to be traveled. Ask him to help navigate.
  8. During homework, have the child use graphic organizers. Help her make a connection between homework and the “real world.”
  9. For the news, find the areas discussed on a globe, map, or atlas. Look up the locations together on the computer, or smart phone.
  10. For family: take time to go on a picnic; watch the night sky; go hiking; play in the dirt—garden; watch incoming storms.
  11. To get out of the house on time, discuss who is the fastest to the slowest to get ready to go out. Brainstorm ways to help the slowest to speed up.

 

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Adults who have strong naturalistic intelligences may find success as: botanist, astronomer, wildlife illustrator, meteorologist, chef, geologist, agriculturalist, horticulturalist, archeologist, volcanologist, ornithologist, oceanographer, biologist, ecologist, zoologist, paleontologist, forensic scientist or landscape architect.

To spark this intelligence in adults:

  • Visit museums of natural history and astronomy. See the night stars or meteor showers.
  • Take photographs of things in nature that interest you. Organize them in categories.
  • Go on an Eco vacation. Learn about different cultures and environments.
  • Sit outside, close your eyes, and listen to the sounds of nature: the wind in the trees; buzzing insects; birds singing. Pay attention to the sights and smells of nature. Feel the change in the air when a storm blows in.

References:

http://howardgardner.com/

http://multipleintelligencesoasis.org/what-mi-am-i/

http://www.niu.edu/facdev/resources/guide/learning/howard_gardner_theory_multiple_intelligences.pdf

http://webshare.northseattle.edu/fam180/topics/mi/HomeActivities.html

http://thesecondprinciple.com/optimal-learning/naturalistic-intelligence/

 

Next week there will be a performance by Sock Puppet Tim. Here’s the link https://www.youtube.com/c/EllenLBuikema. Come and cheer him on! Let Tim know how he’s doing in the comment section of YouTube.

 

Join me the following week for Behavior in Public. Learn about how to have happier family outings.

On Meditation’s Benefits for Creativity and Health

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And now for something completely different!

During my university years, I signed up for a yoga course to offset the physics and calculus required as part of the core curriculum for engineering. I had to balance the heavy academics with some physical activity that included relaxation to survive with my mind intact. Yoga appeared to be a good fit.

Along with the traditional poses, the instructor taught us how to do basic massage—for which my family is eternally grateful—and yogic meditation. A few years later I included Transcendental Meditation (TM) into the mix. TM helped me through many trying years.

Recently I joined a class that includes yoga and pilates, populated with people of varying abilities. It’s easy to identify the newbies by their comments:

“You want me to do what?”

Sure, I can do that.”

“Are you freakin’ kidding me?”

At the end of class, the instructor asks everyone to sit cross-legged with eyes closed, arms resting on the thighs, middle finger and thumb touching, breathing slowly. Gentle music plays in the background. My mind floats with the music.

Then BAM, I slip out of the relaxed state of concentrating on my breathing. I remember something I need to do. This never fails. I file away the information in my mind and return to meditation.

These days, when my mind drifts, it invariably settles on a writing issue. The brief meditation sessions have given me possible book titles, character’s personality changes, new characters, scene changes, and new ideas for blog themes. I am waiting for lottery numbers to filter through, but perhaps that’s asking too much.

In sleep, our bodies grow and heal. Our minds sift through the happenings of the day, filing away information to retrieve at a later time. We solve problems while sleeping.

Meditation has a similar effect on the mind. The meditative mini-vacation, lasting a fraction of our waking day, relaxes the mind long enough to dissipate stress-induced blockages and allow the creativity within to flow.

It is possible to meditate anywhere: on a bus, train, airplane, in a library, places of worship, or home.

Meditation lowers blood pressure; reduces insulin resistance; boosts the immune system; reduces stress; improves concentration, mood, and metabolism; and physically alters brain structures allowing increased memory and decreased anxiety.

There is much to gain.

Resources:

The Benefits of Meditation

http://www.webmd.com/mental-health/features/meditation-heals-body-and-mind

47 Meditation Experts Reveal the #1 Benefits of Meditation They Receive Personally!

http://www.artofliving.org/meditation/meditation-for-you/benefits-of-meditation

https://www.headspace.com/science

http://www.forbes.com/sites/alicegwalton/2015/02/09/7-ways-meditation-can-actually-change-the-brain/

http://archinte.jamanetwork.com/article.aspx?articleid=410453

Sock Puppet Tim Will return soon, as will the continuation of the regular blog.

Have a happy week!

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Intrapersonal Intelligence “Self Smart”

 

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Intrapersonal Intelligence is associated with inner states of being and self-reflection, as well as an awareness of spiritual realities.

People talented in this area know themselves well—understanding personal strengths and weaknesses. They tend to have strong powers of concentration and awareness of different levels of being.

Parents can influence their children’s “Self smarts” by using the following eleven home activities (not in order of importance), developed by Connie Hine and Margaret Lewis Crosby, experts in child development.

  1. While cooking and baking, ask the child about his favorite recipes, and flavors. Ask him how he makes his favorite foods.
  2. When cleaning a room, ask the child to choose what he wants to clean next. Let him take the lead.
  3. Read stories with the child, ask how she feels about the story. Have her retell the tale.
  4. At bedtime have the child dictate, write or draw—depending on the age—thoughts about the day. Have her set goals for tomorrow.
  5. When grocery shopping, decide upon good shopping behavior prior to leaving for the store. Let him add to the grocery list—one healthy, one not so healthy.
  6. During family game time, play games that involve focusing skills, like Concentration card games or online games.
  7. While traveling, encourage the child to describe what he is seeing and feeling in a journal using words, pictures, or both.
  8. During homework, have the child make up her own study questions. Talk to her about her questions. Listen.
  9. For the news, ask the child about his feelings about the news stories. If he could change what was occurring, what would he do?
  10. For family, talk about family times; happy, sad, and funny.
  11. To get out of the house on time, ask the child what he needs to do to get ready to leave. Co-solve any issues.

Adults who have strong intrapersonal intelligences may find success as: psychologist, therapist, counselor, theologian, program planner, or entrepreneur.

To spark this intelligence in adults:

  • When working on a routine activity, be aware of your surroundings, your physical movements, and how you feel.
  • Practice “seeing” yourself from the outside as if you were detached. The “I” watches the “me.”
  • Evaluate the way you think—your problem solving strategies.
  • Write, in 25 words or less, an answer to the question, “Who am I?” Look at the answer each day for a week and reevaluate until you are satisfied.

References:

http://howardgardner.com/

http://multipleintelligencesoasis.org/what-mi-am-i/

http://www.niu.edu/facdev/resources/guide/learning/howard_gardner_theory_multiple_intelligences.pdf

http://webshare.northseattle.edu/fam180/topics/mi/HomeActivities.html

Next week there will be a performance by Sock Puppet Tim. Here’s the link https://www.youtube.com/c/EllenLBuikema. Come and cheer him on! Let Tim know how he’s doing in the comment section of YouTube.

 

Join me the following week for Naturalistic Intelligence, how to increase it in children and spark it in adults.

Sock Puppet Tim Speaks About Traveling with Children

Transcript

Tim sings – “On the road again.”

Tim, are you going somewhere?

  • Oh, not now. I sing about traveling with friends, just like Willie Nelson.
  • He likes to wear hats, like Tim.
  • Maybe later I go on car trip with Ellen.

Do you like to go for rides in the car?

  • Yes, but sometimes Tim gets bored in car. Kids get bored in car too! Nothing to do.
  • You know what?

What Tim?

  • I talked to Ellen about games for the car. She likes my ideas.

What kind of ideas for car games do you have, Tim?

  • One is eye spy with my little eye. Use color, shape, size, or rhymes so people guess what you see.
  • Another one is to make up a story. Just tell a little part and then everyone else tells their part.

Tim, do you mean story in the round?

  • Yes! That’s right. You’re pretty smart.

Thanks, Tim.

  • You know what?

No, what, Tim.

  • My favorite car game is the license plate game. You guess what the letters are for.
  • IDWB could mean “I dance with broccoli.” Ha Ha Ha. That’s goofy.

Wow, Tim, you know your stuff. How did you get so smart?

  • Well, I may just be a sock puppet, but I pay attention. More about traveling is in Ellen’s book. See, this one here. Good stuff in here. New book will have more about traveling with kids.
  • Gotta go.
  • If anyone has questions for Tim, go to ellenbuikema.com Ask Ellen, she answers. Tim just spokes puppet. HA HA HA
  • Bye Bye. I love YouTube!

Interpersonal Intelligence “People Smart”

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Interpersonal Intelligence is associated with the ability to work cooperatively in a group, and communicate verbally and non-verbally with other people. Interpersonal intelligence relies on all other forms of intelligences.

People talented in this area are good at person-to-person encounters and working with others towards a common goal. They see differences in people as necessary and important.

Parents can influence their children’s “people smarts” by using the following eleven home activities (not in order of importance), developed by Connie Hine and Margaret Lewis Crosby, experts in child development.

  1. While cooking and baking, have the child cook with another person.
  2. When cleaning a room, do so cooperatively. Siblings can help each other with their rooms or a parent can help the child with a chore, taking time to talk as both work.
  3. Read stories with the child, stop now and again to ask how a character is feeling. Encourage imaginary conversations with story characters. Model if necessary.
  4. At bedtime talk about: favorite things, what happened at school (who got in trouble), friends, activities, and dreams.
  5. When grocery shopping, ask the child to tell about the different people that work in the store and shop there. What might the people at the store be thinking? Determine this by looking at their faces and how they hold their bodies.
  6. During family game time, play games that involve role playing, like dress-up, charades, and guess how I’m feeling.
  7. While traveling, encourage the child to talk to other children they meet along the way and make friends. Speak with the child about how other people feel and how to recognize the feelings of others.
  8. During homework, work nearby, be a study buddy for the child, help by quizzing.
  9. For the news, discuss issues and listen to each others’ thoughts.
  10. For family, ask the child who he likes to play, cook, read, and fix things with in the family.
  11. To get out of the house on time, have family meetings on the subject. Persuade others to cooperate while modeling cooperation for the child.

 

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Adults who have strong interpersonal intelligences may find success as: counselor, psychologist, politician, sociologist, anthropologist, religious leader, or teacher.

To spark this intelligence in adults:

  • Volunteer for committee work or team activity inside or outside of the daily job.
  • Cut off “the inner voice” and listen fully when someone is speaking.
  • Try to guess what someone else is thinking based on visual cues, and check accuracy with that person.
  • Practice non-verbal communication: facial expressions, body posture, and gestures.

References:

http://howardgardner.com/

http://multipleintelligencesoasis.org/what-mi-am-i/

http://www.niu.edu/facdev/resources/guide/learning/howard_gardner_theory_multiple_intelligences.pdf

http://webshare.northseattle.edu/fam180/topics/mi/HomeActivities.html

Next week there will be a performance by Sock Puppet Tim. Here’s the link https://www.youtube.com/c/EllenLBuikema. Come and cheer him on! Let Tim know how he’s doing in the comment section of YouTube.

 

Join me the following week for the next installment of Multiple Intelligences, a closer look at Intrapersonal Intelligence; how to help strengthen it in children and spark it in adults.

Sock Puppet Tim Speaks About Summer Safety

(Tim sings – Summertime, summertime, sum, sum, summertime.)

Tim, why are you singing about Summertime?

  • I love summertime. There’s more time to play. No homework for Tim.
  • You know what?

No what, Tim?

  • In summertime the weather gets hot. Kids need to be careful.

Why should they be careful, Tim?

  • It’s easy to get too hot. Kids need to drink water to help body keep cool. Playing in water is a fun way to stay cool too.

Tim, is it safe for kids to play in the water when they are alone?

  • Oh, no! Kids should never play in water alone. They could get hurt. That makes Tim sad. Kids should only play or swim in water when adults are with them.

What about being outside in the sun, Tim?

  • Kids need sunscreen! Anyone can get sunburn and it is very ouchie!! Tim no like sunburn.
  • You know what?

What Tim?

  • In summertime there are 4th of July parties! Parties are fun. Fireworks are awesome, but not good for kids to play with.

Not even the sparklers?

  • Aye Chihuahua! No! Sparklers are pretty but the sparkles burn hot. Can be very ouchie and burn kids.
  • One more thing. When kids go outside, they should tell an adult where they are going so no one gets worried about where kids are. That’s really important.

Wow, Tim, you know your stuff. How did you get so smart?

  • Well, I may just be a sock puppet, but I pay attention. More about play and safety is in Ellen’s book. See, this one here. Good stuff in here.
  • Gotta go.
  • If anyone has questions for Tim, go to ellenbuikema.com Find me there and ask me questions. I answer. Ellen types. I have no hands or feet!! Typing with nose hurts too much.
  • Bye Bye. I love YouTube!

Body-Kinesthetic Intelligence “Body Smarts”

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Body-Kinesthetic Intelligence is associated with the ability to use the body to express emotion, create a new product, or play a game.

People talented in this area are good at the physical movements used in sports, drama, and dance. They tend to have a keen sense of where their body is in space. Often a “body smart” person will not have specific hand dominance, using the left for some tasks and the right for others or using both sides equally.

Parents can influence their children’s “body smarts” by using the following eleven home activities (not in order of importance), developed by Connie Hine and Margaret Lewis Crosby, experts in child development.

  1. While cooking and baking, let the child use his hands to feel textures. Have him pay attention to the weight of cooking tools, and foods.
  2. When cleaning a room, create a movement sequence for your child to help remember what needs to be done. How can he clean using the least steps?
  3. Read stories with and act out the story with your child. Have her make up ways the character might move.
  4. At bedtime, give your child a backrub (this will be reciprocated in time) and let her hold a favorite toy or blanket.
  5. When grocery shopping, have your child look for groceries and put them in the cart. After shopping, at home have him touch and compare food items for size, weight, and texture.
  6. During family game time, play games that include physical movements like Kinect for XBOX 360 ®, Nintendo Wii Fit ® games, PlayStation Move ®, Twister ®, a Smartphone game app, or Tag.
  7. While traveling, have the child play the different roles that you see: waiter, truck driver, pilot. Take stretch-your-body breaks for everyone.
  8. During homework, have your child work out math problems and spelling words in shaving cream or with pudding on a cookie sheet.
  9. For the news, have your child role play newscaster or be the weather person.
  10. For family, role-play family members’ characteristics.
  11. To get out of the house on time, build a timeline with your child.

 

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Adults who have strong body-kinesthetic intelligences may find success in: acting, mime, athletics, dance, choreography, sports games, as inventor.

To spark this intelligence in adults:

  • Role-play ideas or feelings. Play charades.
  • Play games that require lots of motion but are not competitive; like naming everyone in the room using movements.
  • Change physical movements to reflect mood. Swim. Walk. Dance.
  • Become aware of your body in space. Notice how you move in everyday tasks.

References:

http://howardgardner.com/

http://multipleintelligencesoasis.org/what-mi-am-i/

http://www.niu.edu/facdev/resources/guide/learning/howard_gardner_theory_multiple_intelligences.pdf

http://webshare.northseattle.edu/fam180/topics/mi/HomeActivities.html

Next week there will be a performance by Sock Puppet Tim. Here’s the link https://www.youtube.com/c/EllenLBuikema. Come and cheer him on! Let Tim know how he’s doing in the comment section of YouTube.

 

Join me the following week for the next installment of Multiple Intelligences, a closer look at Interpersonal Intelligence; how to help strengthen it in children and spark it in adults.

Sock Puppet Tim Speaks About Moving

Transcript

(Tim sings – I like to move it move it, I like to move it move it.)

Tim, what do you like to move?

  • Aw, I like to move my body and sing. But I don’t really have a body, ha ha. Tim is only a sock puppet, but I like to move with music. Makes Tim happy!
  • You know what?

Know what Tim?

  • I don’t really like to move to a different house. Starting all over again is hard. That makes Tim sad.

So Tim, is it hard for kids to move?

  • Yes, it’s very difficult for kids. They feel powerless and not happy. Change is not easy.

Tim, what can parents do to help their children feel better about moving?

  • Well, for older kids, parents can talk to them about decorating their new room in the new home. It is good to have something to look forward to. Maybe older kids can have friends come visit in new place. That can help.

What about the younger children? How can parents help them?

  • The younger kids can help pack their room, like the older kids. Even the tiny ones can help, especially with toys. If you are old enough to take something out of a box, you can put it back into the box.
  • You know what?

What Tim?

  • When children have their own jobs to do, they feel important and a part of the move. Gives them some control. Everybody needs to have some control.

Tim, what happens when young children feel like they have no control?

  • Oh, my goodness. They try to control their bodies. Not poop. Hold it in for days. No fun for anyone.
  • Sometimes they wet the bed even if they are potty trained, because they are stressed over the big change. Giving children some control in the move is a big help to everyone.

Wow, Tim, you know your stuff. How did you get so smart?

  • Well, I may just be a sock puppet, but I pay attention. Moving is in Ellen’s book. See, this one here. Good stuff in here.
  • Gotta go.
  • If anyone has questions for Tim, go to ellenbuikema.com Find me there and ask me questions. I answer. Ellen types. I have no hands or feet!! Typing with nose hurts too much.
  • Bye Bye. I love YouTube!

Visual-Spatial Intelligence “Picture(3-D)Smarts”

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Visual-Spatial Intelligence is associated with the ability to visualize an object and create a mental picture.

People talented in this area are good at accurately “seeing” things inside their head. They may often “see” a map in their mind of someplace they want to go. They might use guided imagery or pretending exercises to send themselves to a peaceful place when stressed. A person with strong visual-spatial ability may look at a blueprint and know exactly what it will look like as a three dimensional object.

Parents can influence their children’s “picture smarts” by using the following eleven home activities (not in order of importance), developed by Connie Hine and Margaret Lewis Crosby, experts in child development.

  1. While cooking and baking, notice colors and textures. See how ingredients look while being mixed. Put thought into decorating and table presentation.
  2. When cleaning a room, make up a poster showing pictures of what goes where, the steps to clean up, and what the cleaned room should look like.
  3. Read stories with illustrations and photos. Draw pictures of the actions in the story.
  4. At bedtime, prepare a poster that has pictures of the steps to get ready for bed. Once in bed, practice visualizing a happy place or favorite dreamscape.
  5. When grocery shopping, look for the best shaped containers for food. Draw pictures of the shopping list instead of words. Have the child help find his favorite foods along the store aisles.
  6. During family game time, play games like Pictionary®, Eye Spy with My Little Eye, or other games that use visual skills.
  7. While traveling, have the child help navigate by reading the map. Look over a map after a trip and find the roads traveled. Collect postcards. Make photo albums. Draw pictures of what has been seen on the trip.
  8. During homework, draw pictures, make paper or clay models to help visualize the problem. This is very helpful in math, science, story maps, and social studies.
  9. For the news, paint or make a collage to express feelings about news stories.
  10. For family, make a photo album. Draw each member of the family doing their favorite activity.
  11. To get out of the house on time, make a chart of the sequence of events to get out.

 

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Adults who have strong visual-spatial intelligences may find success in: architecture, graphic design artistry, cartography “map making”, drafting, painting, sculpting, and advertising.

To spark this intelligence in adults:

  • Work with an artistic media such as clay, paint, pencil, or pen to express thoughts.
  • Daydream on purpose. Visualize a favorite location in as much detail as possible.
  • See yourself in a different time period. Have imaginary conversations with heroes from the past or with characters in a book.
  • Use games like Sim City® to build and develop cities.

References:

http://howardgardner.com/

http://multipleintelligencesoasis.org/what-mi-am-i/

http://www.niu.edu/facdev/resources/guide/learning/howard_gardner_theory_multiple_intelligences.pdf

http://webshare.northseattle.edu/fam180/topics/mi/HomeActivities.html

Next week there will be a performance by Sock Puppet Tim. Here’s the link https://www.youtube.com/c/EllenLBuikema. Come and cheer him on! Let Tim know how he’s doing in the comment section of You Tube.

 

Join me the following week for the next installment of Multiple Intelligences, a closer look at Body/Kinesthetic Intelligence; how to help strengthen it in children and spark it in adults.

Sock Puppet Tim Speaks About Snacks

Transcript
(Tim hums and sings part of the song On Top of Spaghetti – until after the word sneeze, then he sneezes)
Bless you, Tim. Do you have a cold?
• Oh, no. I just sing On Top of Spaghetti. It was a fake sneeze. Tim feeling good.
Are you thinking about food, Tim?
• Yes! I’m thinking about snacks. I like to eat.
What kind of snacks do you like to eat, Tim? I like cookies, potato chips and soda? Those taste good.
• Oh, they are yummy. I love COOKIES, but too much sugar makes me need more and more. Then I can’t eat food that makes my body feel happy.
Doesn’t sugar make you feel happy, Tim?
• Only for a little bit. A little sugar okay for Tim. Healthy snacks are better.
Tim, what snacks are healthy and taste good?
• Oohh, nut butter with fruit or crunchy celery; sweet red, yellow, and orange peppers; berries with whipped cream, fruit and yogurt; curvy whole grain pretzels.
Pretzels?
• These are fun cause I can bite them into letters and numbers. You know what?
What Tim?
• Sometimes I take skinny, straight pretzels and stick them into cheese cubes to make shapes – lots of fun! Tim like string cheese and scrambled eggs with cheese, too.
Scrambled eggs and cheese? Isn’t scrambled eggs and cheese breakfast?
• Ah, sometimes it’s fun to have breakfast any time. Yum.
Wow, Tim, you know your stuff. How did you get so smart?
• Well, I may just be a sock puppet, but I pay attention. All about snacks is in Ellen’s book. See, this one here. Good stuff in here.
• Gotta go.
• If anyone has questions for Tim, go to www.ellenbuikema.com. Find me there and ask me questions. I answer. Ellen types. I have no hands or feet!! Typing with nose hurts too much.
• Bye Bye. I love You Tube!

Musical Intelligence “Music Smarts”

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Musical Intelligence is associated with pattern, sound, and sensitivity to beat and rhythm.

People talented in this area are sensitive to sound’s quality, pitch, strength and source. They have a good feel for the structure of music and for creating melody. Being “music smart” doesn’t mean a person talented in music can sing well. Someone can have a great musical talent and still sing off key. He or she will just notice it right away.

Of all the forms of intelligence, the effect of music on the brain is the greatest for altering the way a person feels. It can express joy and loss, inspire national loyalty as well as religious beliefs.

Parents can influence their children’s “music smarts” by using the following eleven home activities (not in order of importance), developed by Connie Hine and Margaret Lewis Crosby, experts in child development.

  1. While cooking and baking, listen to music. Notice the additional sounds of chopping, spoons clanging, and doors opening.
  2. When cleaning a room, make up a clean-up song with each task being a different verse.
  3. While reading a story, play background music. Make up sounds to go with the words in a story.
  4. At bedtime, sing lullabies together. Play relaxing music. Invent a get ready for bed song.
  5. When grocery shopping, sing the list. Sing a song about the items in the shopping cart. Listen and sing along with the music played in the store.
  6. During family game time, play Name That Tune (listen to part of a song and compete – who can guess the song’s title first). Talk about your favorite kind of music and say why it is a favorite.
  7. While traveling, make up a song about the trip, adding verses everyday about traveling activities. If possible, record the song as you travel. Listen to music in the car.
  8. During homework, experiment with different background music for studying. Make up songs or raps to help memorize facts.
  9. For the news, retell the story using sounds to enhance it.
  10. For family, talk about everyone’s favorite musical artist. Sing a song that describes each family member.
  11. To get out of the house on time, give ten and five minute warning sounds. Use music with a steady beat to keep the pace.

 

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Adults who have strong musical intelligences may find success as: advertiser, performance musician, composer, music critic, music teacher, sound engineer, film-maker, musical theater actor, in television or other media.

To spark this intelligence in adults:

  • Use music to change your mood. For example, play relaxing music before an anxiety-producing activity.
  • Express an idea in song. Use a known song and add lyrics about the family.
  • Hum to create different vibrations in your head using varying volumes and sounds.
  • Play music that includes sounds from nature, like those of water, wind, and animal.

References:

http://howardgardner.com/

http://multipleintelligencesoasis.org/what-mi-am-i/

http://www.niu.edu/facdev/resources/guide/learning/howard_gardner_theory_multiple_intelligences.pdf

http://webshare.northseattle.edu/fam180/topics/mi/HomeActivities.html

Next week there will be a performance by Sock Puppet Tim. Here’s the link https://www.youtube.com/c/EllenLBuikema. Come and cheer him on! Let Tim know how he’s doing in the comment section of You Tube.

 

Join me the following week for the next installment of Multiple Intelligences, a closer look at Visual/Spatial Intelligence; how to help strengthen it in children and spark it in adults.

Sock Puppet Tim Speaks About Sharing

Transcript

Tim, why do kids have trouble sharing toys?
• Well, toys are very important to kids.
• What if someone said you had to share your car and didn’t say when the car would be back? How does that make you feel?
I don’t think I’d like to share my car unless it was very important. Good point Tim.
Parents and kids all need to learn how to share. What can parents, teachers, and babysitters do to help kids have an easier time sharing?
• Adult could say, “It’s your friend’s turn to play with the toy in five minutes.”
• It’s easier to give the toy to someone else when you know you have more time.
Tim, what do you do when someone really can’t let go of a toy? Should you take the toy away and give it to another person?
• Oh, that’s a bad idea. That will only make the child sad and maybe cry.
• It teaches the kids it is okay to do what you want if you are bigger and stronger. I think this might be how bullying starts. Kids learn how to bully. They are not born that way.
• Adult could say, “Here is a different toy. See if your friend will trade.” That works for me! One time I really wanted my friend’s cool red car. It was really fast. She wouldn’t give it to me. Tim was sad.
What did you do Tim?
• Well, I had a purple and blue car. I showed it to her and asked if we could trade. She said yes. Made Tim happy!
Wow, Tim, you know your stuff. How did you get so smart?
• Well, I may just be a sock puppet, but I pay attention. Sharing is in Ellen’s book. See, this one here. Good stuff in here.
• Gotta go.
• If anyone has questions for Tim, go to www.ellenbuikema.com Find me there and ask me questions. I answer. Ellen types. I have no hands or feet!! Typing with nose hurts too much.
• Bye Bye.
• I love YouTube!

Logical/Mathematical Intelligence “Logic Smarts”

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Logical/Mathematical Intelligence is associated with scientific thinking.

People talented in this area are good at finding patterns, seeing connections between different pieces of information, and solving problems.

Logical/Mathematical talent is sparked by comparing and contrasting items, solving mysteries, and by taking things apart and putting them back together.

Parents can influence their children’s “logic smarts” by using the following home activities, developed by Connie Hine and Margaret Lewis Crosby, experts in child development.

  • While cooking and baking, plan how you will make the recipe, explain each step and why you are doing it, prepare the ingredients, and cook.
  • When cleaning a room, decide what is to be done in order of importance and plan the steps. Have a checklist to track each step. Have a place for everything.
  • While reading a story, note characters’ behavior patterns and see how the behaviors affect the story. Ask your child why events happened in the story. (awesome for language arts)
  • At bedtime, look over a chore chart or checklist with your child to remind him of all tasks and the order of steps to go to bed.
  • When grocery shopping, plan the trip through the store. Change or add to the list as needed. Tell a story about all the steps to get to the store. Ask your child to remember what’s on the list.
  • During family game time, play logical thinking games like: Clue ®, Jeopardy ®, or jigsaw puzzles.
  • While traveling, play category games; find differences and similarities. Describe an unseen object and its possible uses. Create different rules for the license plate game or when looking for items or signs of different colors and shapes.
  • During homework, create a good-homework rules list. Have your child evaluate herself when she is finished. List all the tasks and have her decide the order.
  • For the news, choose a problem based on the news. Brainstorm possible solutions. Pick the best one.
  • For family, describe how everyone gets up in the morning. Say what each eats for breakfast. Who is funniest, grumpiest, sleepiest, etc.?
  • To get out of the house on time, make a timeline of the steps to take before leaving. How many minutes does it take for teenage Margaret to get ready, etc. Include why you have to leave.

 

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Adults who have strong logical/mathematical intelligences may find success as: auditor, accountant, mathematician, scientist, statistician, computer analyst, technician.

To spark this intelligence in adults:

  • Create a four-point outline of your hobby. Each point will have four sub-points, with each sub-point having four more sub-points.
  • Practice comparing and contrasting two items; for instance, five characteristics of a flashlight, five characteristics of an egg carton, and five characteristics the two objects have in common.
  • Create a convincing explanation of something totally crazy, like the benefits of an edible window.
  • Participate in a project, like cooking, using the scientific method. If you seldom cook, try making brownies from scratch following a recipe.

References:

http://howardgardner.com/

http://multipleintelligencesoasis.org/what-mi-am-i/

http://www.niu.edu/facdev/resources/guide/learning/howard_gardner_theory_multiple_intelligences.pdf

http://webshare.northseattle.edu/fam180/topics/mi/HomeActivities.html

Next week will be Sock Puppet Tim’s second solo performance. Here’s the link https://www.youtube.com/c/EllenLBuikema. Come and cheer him on! Let Tim know how he’s doing in the comment section of You Tube.

 

Join me the following week for the next installment of Multiple Intelligences, a closer look at Musical Intelligence and how to help strengthen it in children.

Sock Puppet Tim Speaks About Restaurant Behavior

The link to Tim’s video is http://youtu.be/GexRsT-BCeo

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Questions for Tim about restaurant behavior

Tim, why do children misbehave in restaurants?

  • Boredom, hunger, not able to stay in one place too long

Tim, why do children have such a hard time staying in their seats in restaurants?

  • Tail bones not full developed so it’s not comfortable to stay in one place without moving
  • Moving makes it easier for children to concentrate

Tim, what can parents do to make it easier for the children to behave well in restaurants?

  • Show children what good behavior looks like so children know how to behave
  • Bring crayons, paper, coloring books, something to read, crackers or dry cereal to eat until food arrives
    • No markers, especially the smelly ones. Sometimes kids color their noses when smelling them – what a mess!

Tim, should children go to all types of restaurants?

  • Parents can bring children to any restaurant they feel comfortable with at a very young age. Children will watch how parents act. They see and hear everything. They say what parents say. If parents are nice to waiters, kids will be nice too. If parents are respectful, kids will learn to be respectful from parents.
  • Pay attention to the children and have conversations in the restaurants. It can be good family time. That makes the children feel important and they will behave well. Sometimes kids run around in restaurants because they are looking for attention, any kind—good or bad. Catch them being good!
  • Keep the rules the same for all restaurants so children know what parents expect. Children’s behavior will rise to their parents’ expectations.

Wow, Tim, you know your stuff. How did you get so smart?

  • Well, I may just be a sock puppet, but I pay attention. Behavior in restaurants is in Ellen’s book. See, this one here. Good stuff in here.
  • Gotta go.
  • If anyone has questions for Tim, go to ellenbuikema.com Find me there and ask me questions. I answer. Ellen types. I have no hands or feet!! Typing with nose hurts too much.
  • Bye Bye.
  • I love YouTube!

Linguistic/Verbal Intelligence “Word Smarts”

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Linguistic intelligence relates to the ability to use words and language.

People talented in this area are good at convincing other people to do what they want them to do. They may use humor to diffuse situations and get their point across. They tend to understand and tell jokes well.

Linguistic intelligence is sparked by the spoken word; by reading other’s written thoughts; and by writing one’s own ideas.

Parents can influence their children’s “words smarts” by using the following home activities, developed by Connie Hine and Margaret Lewis Crosby, experts in child development.

  • While cooking and baking, tell a story about another time you made this recipe.
  • When picking up a room, create a story to tell the child while cleaning. “Broadcast” what the child is doing or have the child be the announcer.
  • While reading a story, explain the meaning of new words. Read poetry, magazines, and stories.
  • At bedtime, have the child tell a story about his day. Read to each other.
  • When grocery shopping, point out words on signs, shelves, boxes, and bottles. Do a play-by-play of the whole trip.
  • During family game time, play word games like Scrabble ®, Boggle®, crossword puzzles, hangman.
  • While traveling, make up words for people, places, and things. Create a mystery story about the places visited and the people you met. Look for letters on license plates. Listen to audio books.
  • During homework, have the child talk through the problems assigned, and verbalize her thoughts before writing.
  • For the news, read the newspaper and magazines. Talk about what was read.
  • For family, make up or have the child invent a story about each family member.
  • To get out of the house on time, create a verbal routine using cue words with time periods built in. Have the child tell a story of what could happen if you don’t get out on time. The story does not have to be serious. Humor can still get the point across.

Adults who have strong linguistic intelligences may find success in: public speaking, poetry, journalism, comedy, play writing, newscasting, story-telling, law, and teaching.

To spark this intelligence in adults:

  • Read a story you like and write your own next chapter—“Then what happens?”
  • Listen to someone else’s ideas then ask her questions about the topic.
  • Learn the meaning of one new word each day and use that word.
  • Make a speech on a topic of great interest to you.
  • Keep a journal or blog to write your thoughts about the day’s events.

 

References:

http://howardgardner.com/

http://multipleintelligencesoasis.org/what-mi-am-i/

http://www.niu.edu/facdev/resources/guide/learning/howard_gardner_theory_multiple_intelligences.pdf

http://webshare.northseattle.edu/fam180/topics/mi/HomeActivities.html

 

Next week will be Sock Puppet Tim’s first solo performance. The YouTube link will be on the blog page of my website. Come and cheer him on!

Join me the following week for the next installment of Multiple Intelligences, a closer look at Logical/Mathematical Intelligence and how to strengthen it in children.